It's Never too Late to Find Love by Jodie A. Brittain
Whatever your age might be, dating in any form can definitely be a scary concept.
From frantically contemplating on what you should wear to wondering whether your date will like you or not, dating can be a downright intimidating prospect. For seniors, dating can be even more overwhelming, especially if they are getting back into the whole dating scene after a painful divorce or the death of a spouse. Most of the seniors will tell you that they no longer have the emotional strength to go through the whole dating process again.
However, things have started to change in recent times. Finding the love of your life does not necessarily have to stop at the age of 30. As a matter of fact, there are thousands of online dating sites that are now trying to get this message across to the seniors all over the world. In Australia, there are thousands and thousands of seniors who have taken to the Internet to find prospective mates and lifelong companions. Seniors dating online has fast become the latest rage in Australia, and this gives the opportunity to interact with other seniors online. This is a great way to start dating, as you can first get comfortable with a person before you actually venture forth to meet him or her.
Internet dating and other online personals is seeing a gradual rise in the number of members signing up, and there are some free online dating services that don't even charge for joining up. What with these good services, you really have nothing to lose! A good dating service will have loads of special features like blocking annoying people from getting in touch with you, which also happens to be a safety feature. As a senior, the best thing to do is to chat with a person about your likes, dislikes and so on. In this way, you will get a fairly good idea about the person.
From singles seniors online dating to Christian online dating sites and services, you can narrow down your search by either religion or age. There are thousands of online dating sites and services for seniors over the Internet, making your dating life a lot more exciting. Here are a couple of advantages of signing up with an online senior dating site:
* It's easy-to-use - If you have no idea how to use computers, keep in mind that these services are always user friendly. * Privacy - Reputable sites do not give out private information like your contact numbers and email addresses. You are given the option of giving your 'real identity' only when you are comfortable with the person.
What's more, you can go to various singles sites to find people from particular places. So if you're staying in Melbourne and are looking for someone from there, you could go to a Melbourne singles adult site. Similarly, you have the Perth singles, Canberra singles, Adelaide singles, Sydney singles and so on. Furthermore, you could also go to other dating sites like Melbourne dating, Sydney dating, Hobart dating and so on to find the perfect person within your own area.
So, never think that dating or in this case 'online dating' is only restricted to the younger segment of the population. Whether you are 18 or 80, it doesn't really matter if you're looking out for a long-term relationship. So don't get tied down by your age. Go online and start dating.
About the Author
Jodie Brittain is the CEO of Australian Online Dating website Slinky - the Australian-only Dating Personals service for men and women looking for long term relationships. Drop by the site at http://www.slinky.com.au and join up for Free!
mercredi 11 juillet 2007
Pick Up Secrets Exposed by a Woman
Pick Up Secrets Exposed by a Woman by DanAnd Jennifer
How SHOULD a regular guy approach a woman to get her phone number, a date, a chance?
We're always seeing seduction and pick up advice from the same well known faces in the Seduction Community. From David DeAngelo, to Zan, Mystery, Jason Matthews, and many others. Do you see the pattern yet? They're all GUYS!
They tell us how to approach women , how to get their phone numbers, and how to get them to go out on a date. They even tell us how to get those hot one night stands that some guys are crazy about.
We think it's about time to get that advice straight from a woman - the object of your search.
You ARE trying to get a woman to go out with you, aren't you?
Why not find out from her what's really going on behind her pretty blue eyes... what she's thinking about you as you first walk into the room, why she can't get rid of some guys fast enough when they come up to her... That kind of information is priceless. Imagine getting the lowdown from the other side... what it's like being a woman and having ALL THOSE GUYS hitting on you.
Here's our review of Tiffany Taylor's excellent insider guide to the fairer sex - Guy Gets Girl . In reality, it's more of a strategic and tactical plan than a "book", but anyway. It's also worth noting that Guy Gets Girl is the first and only step-by-step pickup, dating, and seduction guide available written for men... By a Woman. :-)
"How To Approach Any Woman, Anywhere And Know Exactly What To Say To Get Her To Give You Her Number And Go On A Date With You - NOW"
Tiffany's promise is a pretty tall order, but from everything we've read, I'd say she delivers.
After all, it's not about fancy pickup lines, sleazy hypnosis tricks, and all kinds of other less than honest stuff. At the core, what matters is being confident and understanding that woman that you're approaching... understanding what she wants, what she's looking for, her true desires.
That's what matters and what will get you that date.
Tiffany also tells you how any nice guy can get practically any girl he wants , IF he knows what the lady is really looking for. Overall jerks don't hold a candle to nice guys, but beware - nice guys who don't know what they're doing often end up in the "friend zone".
She also tells you where to find great available women, even if you're not into dance clubs and the traditional singles scene.
And how about three different ways to approach a woman and immediately get on her good graces. Really, it can be that simple if your timing is right.
Her motives
Guess what... every person on this earth has a reason for everything they do. Many reasons are friendly and completely noble, and others are selfish misguided. Women are no different than men in this respect - pay close attention to what they say, what they're asking you about, how they act, act. and you'll always know where things are headed.
Flirting - the good, the bad, and the ugly
What you should say and when to get her affections, but especially what NOT to do when flirting unless you want to scare her off.
The first date
Learn the 4 best places to take a girl on a date , to guarantee you'll see her again. They don't even cost as much as a meal at a cheap restaurant, but they are infinitely more enjoyable for her!
A 3 step formula for planning that crucial first date, to ensure she'll not only go out with you, but keep going out with you, but keep you after that date.
What to talk about on your first date. Some great conversation starters, and what topics to avoid, or else.
Reading her signals - how to know if she's ready to take the next step The first kiss - how to know when she's ready to be kissed, and when she ISN'T.
The one night stand
There are many reasons you may not want to do this, but in case you do, there's a good section describing how to get her in the mood, how to read the signals, where to go, and what to do next. Also how to separate with no hard feelings after the sex, and how to ensure you'll be able to do it again if you choose.
Sex tactics
The key here again is understanding what women truly need and want... how to romance her and get her in the mood every time, why foreplay is so important if you want to have sex with her again, etc.
Also, the one mistake guys generally make that puts the freeze on any sexual activity for the evening and beyond.
And of course, knowing when to throw in the towel. Sometimes it just isn't working out, no matter how much you want it to. But you MUST know when and how you should break it off, so that you can still stay friends. Get this wrong and you could end up with a lot of problems.
Is she the one?
How to know if she's really the one for you, even if you think you're sure one way or the other.
Approaching - what to do and say that will boost your chances of getting the girl Ponder these questions...
Do you just walk right up to her, or is there a "right moment" to approach?
If she's with friends, how can you use her friends to your advantage?
Once you get her talking, how do you break the awkward silence?
And find out how to get her real number, and not end up with a bogus one.
Asking her out
How long do you need to wait before calling her, and what should you say to really keep her interested? Most guys get this completely wrong, which is why they can't ever seem to get that ever elusive second date.
A word of warning
Although the material is thorough and the ideas are very insightful and well thought out, we do have a strong concern with this guide. Guy Gets Girl comes with an additional bonus guide entitled Advanced Psychological Techniques .
We are not fond of using psychological triggers and similar seduction tactics to approach women, get a date, etc.
It is your choice if you want to use the advanced psychological seduction tactics in this book, but be warned. While you may be virtually guaranteed to get her phone number, get a date, get a one night stand... honesty is the most important factor in a relationship. Eventually she will get to know the real you, and you could be in trouble.
So the short version is this: use the advanced psychological seduction tactics at your own risk . This guide has a lot of great information, but use it wisely. Overall we highly recommend this book.
Get your copy right now before you get busy and forget. Then go out and walk up to the girl of your dreams, and score a date with her.
About the Author
Visit http://www.AskDanAndJennifer.com today. Ask Dan and Jennifer your most pressing questions on Dating, Relationships, Love, and Sex, and take a sneak peak at what others are asking.
Subscribe to http://www.AskDanAndJennifer.com today and you'll get the latest dating, relationship, love, and sex content sent straight to your email inbox.
Copyright 2007 www.AskDanAndJennifer.com
How SHOULD a regular guy approach a woman to get her phone number, a date, a chance?
We're always seeing seduction and pick up advice from the same well known faces in the Seduction Community. From David DeAngelo, to Zan, Mystery, Jason Matthews, and many others. Do you see the pattern yet? They're all GUYS!
They tell us how to approach women , how to get their phone numbers, and how to get them to go out on a date. They even tell us how to get those hot one night stands that some guys are crazy about.
We think it's about time to get that advice straight from a woman - the object of your search.
You ARE trying to get a woman to go out with you, aren't you?
Why not find out from her what's really going on behind her pretty blue eyes... what she's thinking about you as you first walk into the room, why she can't get rid of some guys fast enough when they come up to her... That kind of information is priceless. Imagine getting the lowdown from the other side... what it's like being a woman and having ALL THOSE GUYS hitting on you.
Here's our review of Tiffany Taylor's excellent insider guide to the fairer sex - Guy Gets Girl . In reality, it's more of a strategic and tactical plan than a "book", but anyway. It's also worth noting that Guy Gets Girl is the first and only step-by-step pickup, dating, and seduction guide available written for men... By a Woman. :-)
"How To Approach Any Woman, Anywhere And Know Exactly What To Say To Get Her To Give You Her Number And Go On A Date With You - NOW"
Tiffany's promise is a pretty tall order, but from everything we've read, I'd say she delivers.
After all, it's not about fancy pickup lines, sleazy hypnosis tricks, and all kinds of other less than honest stuff. At the core, what matters is being confident and understanding that woman that you're approaching... understanding what she wants, what she's looking for, her true desires.
That's what matters and what will get you that date.
Tiffany also tells you how any nice guy can get practically any girl he wants , IF he knows what the lady is really looking for. Overall jerks don't hold a candle to nice guys, but beware - nice guys who don't know what they're doing often end up in the "friend zone".
She also tells you where to find great available women, even if you're not into dance clubs and the traditional singles scene.
And how about three different ways to approach a woman and immediately get on her good graces. Really, it can be that simple if your timing is right.
Her motives
Guess what... every person on this earth has a reason for everything they do. Many reasons are friendly and completely noble, and others are selfish misguided. Women are no different than men in this respect - pay close attention to what they say, what they're asking you about, how they act, act. and you'll always know where things are headed.
Flirting - the good, the bad, and the ugly
What you should say and when to get her affections, but especially what NOT to do when flirting unless you want to scare her off.
The first date
Learn the 4 best places to take a girl on a date , to guarantee you'll see her again. They don't even cost as much as a meal at a cheap restaurant, but they are infinitely more enjoyable for her!
A 3 step formula for planning that crucial first date, to ensure she'll not only go out with you, but keep going out with you, but keep you after that date.
What to talk about on your first date. Some great conversation starters, and what topics to avoid, or else.
Reading her signals - how to know if she's ready to take the next step The first kiss - how to know when she's ready to be kissed, and when she ISN'T.
The one night stand
There are many reasons you may not want to do this, but in case you do, there's a good section describing how to get her in the mood, how to read the signals, where to go, and what to do next. Also how to separate with no hard feelings after the sex, and how to ensure you'll be able to do it again if you choose.
Sex tactics
The key here again is understanding what women truly need and want... how to romance her and get her in the mood every time, why foreplay is so important if you want to have sex with her again, etc.
Also, the one mistake guys generally make that puts the freeze on any sexual activity for the evening and beyond.
And of course, knowing when to throw in the towel. Sometimes it just isn't working out, no matter how much you want it to. But you MUST know when and how you should break it off, so that you can still stay friends. Get this wrong and you could end up with a lot of problems.
Is she the one?
How to know if she's really the one for you, even if you think you're sure one way or the other.
Approaching - what to do and say that will boost your chances of getting the girl Ponder these questions...
Do you just walk right up to her, or is there a "right moment" to approach?
If she's with friends, how can you use her friends to your advantage?
Once you get her talking, how do you break the awkward silence?
And find out how to get her real number, and not end up with a bogus one.
Asking her out
How long do you need to wait before calling her, and what should you say to really keep her interested? Most guys get this completely wrong, which is why they can't ever seem to get that ever elusive second date.
A word of warning
Although the material is thorough and the ideas are very insightful and well thought out, we do have a strong concern with this guide. Guy Gets Girl comes with an additional bonus guide entitled Advanced Psychological Techniques .
We are not fond of using psychological triggers and similar seduction tactics to approach women, get a date, etc.
It is your choice if you want to use the advanced psychological seduction tactics in this book, but be warned. While you may be virtually guaranteed to get her phone number, get a date, get a one night stand... honesty is the most important factor in a relationship. Eventually she will get to know the real you, and you could be in trouble.
So the short version is this: use the advanced psychological seduction tactics at your own risk . This guide has a lot of great information, but use it wisely. Overall we highly recommend this book.
Get your copy right now before you get busy and forget. Then go out and walk up to the girl of your dreams, and score a date with her.
About the Author
Visit http://www.AskDanAndJennifer.com today. Ask Dan and Jennifer your most pressing questions on Dating, Relationships, Love, and Sex, and take a sneak peak at what others are asking.
Subscribe to http://www.AskDanAndJennifer.com today and you'll get the latest dating, relationship, love, and sex content sent straight to your email inbox.
Copyright 2007 www.AskDanAndJennifer.com
How do the ladies see you ?
How do the ladies see you ? by Mark Turner
The way we behave around others is the single most important factor that decides how successful we will be with the ladies. Everything from what comes out of our mouths, to what we wear and how we act will decide our fate at the end of the night.
Most guys only need a little tweaking to their persona to make them attractive enough to get some attention from the ladies. It's not that tough if you're willing to put in the effort. The sad thing is that most guys never try at all, and then they wonder why they spend so much time with their hand instead of a woman.
I'm not going to say that all women like certain qualities in men. Each woman is different and will find certain things more appealing than others. What I'll look at here is some general things that every guy should do if he wants to get some on a regular basis, instead of the rare booze-influenced fling.
It's no secret that we're all different-looking and that some dudes get chicks just because they look good. Not all of us are born like that, but there are many ways to make yourself attractive that can even out your chances. If you ask a group of 10 women what their most important quality in a man is, eight out of 10 will name some personality trait instead of looks. That means that every guy has a chance if he can display himself well and show that he cares about himself and how he's viewed.
Rule No. 1 is personal grooming. Taking a shower and putting on your favorite shirt is not enough, unless you look like John Stamos. Being a man means that we're usually hairy. Unless it's on your head, under your arms, or on your legs and arms, body hair is usually a turn-off to the ladies. The chest is ok with some, but most girls prefer as little as possible.
That doesn't mean you have to shave your whole body, although some guys do, and it would probably help you more than hurt you. What it does mean is if you have a lot of back hair or long mutant eyebrow hair, it would be in your best interest to clean it up. The real important spots are nose hair and ear hair. These two spots are seen all the time, and when it goes unchecked, it shows a bit of laziness on your part. A girl doesn't want to look into your eyes and see what looks like octopi hanging out of your nose. Would you?
So, once you get your body hair sorted out, you can take a look at your clothing situation. It would be nice to have the latest styles and custom-fitted, but most of us get our clothes at the mall. Your clothing can be whatever you like. You're more apt to present a positive persona if you like the clothes you're wearing. Just remember the basics and try not to wear sneakers to the bar. If you don't have a nice pair of shoes, start saving your money because sneakers at the bar are like a horn growing out of your head to the ladies. They love shoes and will look to see what you're wearing within the first minute of meeting you, most of them anyway. And add a belt if you don't already wear one.
So, now you look as good as you're going to look. What's next on the list? The next and most important thing is how you carry yourself. We all can't have the charm of George Clooney, but we can take some steps to ensure that we don't spend the evening cutting off our own feet. The basic rule to follow in the bar is to not get too drunk. A lot of us need some liquid courage to feel comfortable when we're cruising the ladies. Don't be the guy who requires too much courage and gets too drunk. Unless she's drunk, this leaves you dead in the water.
If one type of personality attracts women more than any other, it's the Alpha male type. Alpha males are confident and project that they can take care of themselves. Women are instinctively geared to be attracted to the dominant male. That doesn't mean that you have to be loud or boss your buddies around. The best way to present an Alpha personality is to be the first guy to do it. The first one to order drinks, the first to walk in the room, the first to initiate a conversation with her. The guys you're out with won't notice what you're doing, but the ladies will, and they'll like it. It makes them feel they will be safe if they're with a capable Alpha male type. You can still be - and should be - yourself; just make a little effort to show that you have a pair and you're not scared to put yourself out there.
Once you actually start chatting up a girl, there are couple of things to keep in mind. When trying to impress the ladies, you must remember to keep things positive. Making fun of other people or bitching about the world will only make you look like a complainer. There's no impression like a first impression, and making sure that initial conversation is positive is as important as remembering her name. (For God's sake, remember her name.)
The single most important thing to do is to listen when you're in a conversation. Most guys are self absorbed (it's what hurts the good-looking guys the most). Make sure you hear everything she's saying. It wouldn't hurt to refer to something she said earlier, just to show that you were listening. Women want to feel special. Listening to their issues will achieve that and more. Don't try and solve their problems whatever you do, just listen and tell them that it always works out in the end.
The eight out of 10 women who would name a personality trait instead of looks, most often will say that a sense of humor is the most important one. Not all of us are comedians, but keeping the attitude upbeat will achieve the same thing. If you are capable of making a room laugh, this is the best time to employ the skill.
This is also a good time to show her that you're not cheap. The single most unattractive trait you can have is to be a cheapskate. If you were a woman, would you want to be with a guy who doesn't want to share what they have? Take this opportunity to buy her a drink, or a round of drinks would be even better. She'll see a generous, fun guy who's interested in everyone's good time, not just his own. Pay for the cab if you head home with her and don't let her pay for anything until your third or fourth date. And then, only if she offers.
As the evening moves forward and things seem to be going well, the only thing that can mess this up is you. Most women know if they're interested or not within the first couple of minutes of meeting you. If you've made it this far, you're in good shape, so don't apply too much pressure to try and take her home. This is the finest of lines and every chick has her own level before she gets turned off.
If things do get to the physical side of things, this is when you can turn the tables on her. One of the first things I learned about women is that they get excited if you do something they're not expecting. Instead of turning up the heat when it gets physical, try and leave her wanting more. Take your time and don't go for the home run right away. Just enough action to get her worked up and then back off a bit.
Run to the bathroom or get a drink. When she asks what you are doing, tell her that she's getting you too hot and you have to back off. She'll be climbing you like a tree in about 10 minutes. You'll be very surprised how well it works. It gives them control over the situation and it also gives them a small feeling of perhaps not being wanted. Women need to be desired; this can be a great tool if you can play it right.
How you are seen is completely up to you. Most of us don't look like male models, but most of us are having sex. Belief and confidence will carry you anywhere you wish to be. Spend some time preparing for the ladies and some time thinking about how well the next encounter will go.
It's really that simple. If you believe it will happen and you keep working at it, it will.
About the Author
Writing for Hustler Magazine
The way we behave around others is the single most important factor that decides how successful we will be with the ladies. Everything from what comes out of our mouths, to what we wear and how we act will decide our fate at the end of the night.
Most guys only need a little tweaking to their persona to make them attractive enough to get some attention from the ladies. It's not that tough if you're willing to put in the effort. The sad thing is that most guys never try at all, and then they wonder why they spend so much time with their hand instead of a woman.
I'm not going to say that all women like certain qualities in men. Each woman is different and will find certain things more appealing than others. What I'll look at here is some general things that every guy should do if he wants to get some on a regular basis, instead of the rare booze-influenced fling.
It's no secret that we're all different-looking and that some dudes get chicks just because they look good. Not all of us are born like that, but there are many ways to make yourself attractive that can even out your chances. If you ask a group of 10 women what their most important quality in a man is, eight out of 10 will name some personality trait instead of looks. That means that every guy has a chance if he can display himself well and show that he cares about himself and how he's viewed.
Rule No. 1 is personal grooming. Taking a shower and putting on your favorite shirt is not enough, unless you look like John Stamos. Being a man means that we're usually hairy. Unless it's on your head, under your arms, or on your legs and arms, body hair is usually a turn-off to the ladies. The chest is ok with some, but most girls prefer as little as possible.
That doesn't mean you have to shave your whole body, although some guys do, and it would probably help you more than hurt you. What it does mean is if you have a lot of back hair or long mutant eyebrow hair, it would be in your best interest to clean it up. The real important spots are nose hair and ear hair. These two spots are seen all the time, and when it goes unchecked, it shows a bit of laziness on your part. A girl doesn't want to look into your eyes and see what looks like octopi hanging out of your nose. Would you?
So, once you get your body hair sorted out, you can take a look at your clothing situation. It would be nice to have the latest styles and custom-fitted, but most of us get our clothes at the mall. Your clothing can be whatever you like. You're more apt to present a positive persona if you like the clothes you're wearing. Just remember the basics and try not to wear sneakers to the bar. If you don't have a nice pair of shoes, start saving your money because sneakers at the bar are like a horn growing out of your head to the ladies. They love shoes and will look to see what you're wearing within the first minute of meeting you, most of them anyway. And add a belt if you don't already wear one.
So, now you look as good as you're going to look. What's next on the list? The next and most important thing is how you carry yourself. We all can't have the charm of George Clooney, but we can take some steps to ensure that we don't spend the evening cutting off our own feet. The basic rule to follow in the bar is to not get too drunk. A lot of us need some liquid courage to feel comfortable when we're cruising the ladies. Don't be the guy who requires too much courage and gets too drunk. Unless she's drunk, this leaves you dead in the water.
If one type of personality attracts women more than any other, it's the Alpha male type. Alpha males are confident and project that they can take care of themselves. Women are instinctively geared to be attracted to the dominant male. That doesn't mean that you have to be loud or boss your buddies around. The best way to present an Alpha personality is to be the first guy to do it. The first one to order drinks, the first to walk in the room, the first to initiate a conversation with her. The guys you're out with won't notice what you're doing, but the ladies will, and they'll like it. It makes them feel they will be safe if they're with a capable Alpha male type. You can still be - and should be - yourself; just make a little effort to show that you have a pair and you're not scared to put yourself out there.
Once you actually start chatting up a girl, there are couple of things to keep in mind. When trying to impress the ladies, you must remember to keep things positive. Making fun of other people or bitching about the world will only make you look like a complainer. There's no impression like a first impression, and making sure that initial conversation is positive is as important as remembering her name. (For God's sake, remember her name.)
The single most important thing to do is to listen when you're in a conversation. Most guys are self absorbed (it's what hurts the good-looking guys the most). Make sure you hear everything she's saying. It wouldn't hurt to refer to something she said earlier, just to show that you were listening. Women want to feel special. Listening to their issues will achieve that and more. Don't try and solve their problems whatever you do, just listen and tell them that it always works out in the end.
The eight out of 10 women who would name a personality trait instead of looks, most often will say that a sense of humor is the most important one. Not all of us are comedians, but keeping the attitude upbeat will achieve the same thing. If you are capable of making a room laugh, this is the best time to employ the skill.
This is also a good time to show her that you're not cheap. The single most unattractive trait you can have is to be a cheapskate. If you were a woman, would you want to be with a guy who doesn't want to share what they have? Take this opportunity to buy her a drink, or a round of drinks would be even better. She'll see a generous, fun guy who's interested in everyone's good time, not just his own. Pay for the cab if you head home with her and don't let her pay for anything until your third or fourth date. And then, only if she offers.
As the evening moves forward and things seem to be going well, the only thing that can mess this up is you. Most women know if they're interested or not within the first couple of minutes of meeting you. If you've made it this far, you're in good shape, so don't apply too much pressure to try and take her home. This is the finest of lines and every chick has her own level before she gets turned off.
If things do get to the physical side of things, this is when you can turn the tables on her. One of the first things I learned about women is that they get excited if you do something they're not expecting. Instead of turning up the heat when it gets physical, try and leave her wanting more. Take your time and don't go for the home run right away. Just enough action to get her worked up and then back off a bit.
Run to the bathroom or get a drink. When she asks what you are doing, tell her that she's getting you too hot and you have to back off. She'll be climbing you like a tree in about 10 minutes. You'll be very surprised how well it works. It gives them control over the situation and it also gives them a small feeling of perhaps not being wanted. Women need to be desired; this can be a great tool if you can play it right.
How you are seen is completely up to you. Most of us don't look like male models, but most of us are having sex. Belief and confidence will carry you anywhere you wish to be. Spend some time preparing for the ladies and some time thinking about how well the next encounter will go.
It's really that simple. If you believe it will happen and you keep working at it, it will.
About the Author
Writing for Hustler Magazine
What To Say To Meet Women Anywhere !
What To Say To Meet Women Anywhere ! by Ross Jeffries
You see, knowing what to SAY to a woman is utterly and totally dependent on WHAT YOU CAN OBSERVE ABOUT THAT WOMAN.
It's not so much a matter of what to say.
No, the real secret of "opening" women is, knowing what to observe, knowing what to notice, and even KNOWING WHAT TO GET CURIOUS ABOUT.
Does that make sense?
Also, the approach to opening her might differ a bit if she is at a coffee house, quietly studying, as opposed to in a loud restaurant or party, right?
Why?
Because the CONTEXT she is in and what you NOTICE about her is going to be different.
If she's studying, and you notice that she's having a hard time; thinking really hard, talking to herself outloud or just thinking "OUTLOUD" in her head, it would NOT make sense to walkup and ask her opinion about the great band that is playing or where she bought her cool bicycle.
So, I will say it again. The most important thing, first and foremost, is NOT what you say, but the context she is in, and what you can observe about her and the setting she is in.
Now, many guys ask me about compliments. Should I give them?Is it a good way to first "open up" talking to a woman? If so,what should I compliment?
Ok. I'll repeat: it depends on the context, where she is,what she is doing, and what you NOTICE and can OBSERVE.
Look: whether it is opening her by using a compliment, or asking her a question about something, or making a comment about something she's doing or something going on in the environment,I will ask myself the same question, "What can I notice about this person that I can use to make a connection?"
Now, let's say I notice something about her that I DO find worth complimenting. My rules for complimenting are as follows:
1. NO sexual content in the compliments. That means I don't compliment on her great boobs, great legs, great butt, etc. No woman (no half-way SANE woman) wants a drooling lecher.
2. All compliments to be delivered with good eye contact (infact, ANY openers are delivered this way) with a smile on my face AND in my eyes ( I sort of make them twinkle a bit) and deliverd with a MATTER of fact voice tone.
This means I don't over do it with my tone of voice. The compliment is delivered, matter of fact, with no concern on my part whether she will accept it, reject it or anything in between.
It is NOT about her accepting or rejecting what I say. It is ONLY about me wanting to say what I have to say, and any response she has is OK WITH ME.
Really, this is about the sub-text. This means, you see, that there is the surface message, the actual words I say. Those can be important.
But the sub-text is the unspoken or implied message I am delivering about me and how I walk through the world; that take full responsibility for how I feel about myself, my situation, the events and circumstances in my life, and I don't need anyone to approve or validate my message.
Now, trust me. When you come from THAT place, and add in a touch of humor....
Almost Anything You Say Will Get A Good Response!
Notice something else. This is a great but different KIND of confidence. It's not the kind of confidence that say, loudly, "I KNOW I AM GOING TO GET WHAT I WANT".
It's more of a, "If I get what I want, that's fine and good, and if not, that's ok too. I'm having fun regardless".
Ok. Back to compliments then.
I prefer to compliment women on the following things:
1. How they carry themselves or how they move. I enjoy awoman who moves beautifully and/or who has great posture. I will tell them so, as follows, "I just wanted to tell....I think you have perfect.......posture. You just carry yourself beautifully."
Notice the ....... This indicates a pause in your speaking. I don't run everythingtogetherintoonesentencelikethis.
No. I take....my....time. I pause, right before I tell them what I am going to tell them, so they will get curious about what I am going to say, and therefore be more receptive.
The pauses in the music are as much a part of the music as the notes, to use a metaphor.
2. How they are dressed. I like to compliment on style. So I will say, "I just wanted to tell you...I admire women with class and style...so I had to say "hi". I'm YOUR NAME HERE."
Note that this is what I call an IMPLIED compliment. I didn't' directly tell her I think SHE has class and style. I said I admire women with class and style, so I had to say "hi".That IMPLIES that I think she has class and style.
Why is this important?
Well, by implying the compliment, she has to use her imagination to interpret what you meant.
Imagination is an ACTIVE process, and so she doesn't resist the message, as she herself has to take an active hand in creating it!
Implied compliments are very useful in slipping past any resistance or skepticism to your message!
3. I will compliment on their "energy". I know this is a New Age, California kind of thing, but women are into "energy" or "vibes". It doesn't matter if you believe in it or not-although I hope one day you will.
The important thing is, MOST women believe in it.
So if I notice a woman has a calm, radiant, happy demeanor, I will say, "I just wanted to tell you.....I think you have..a beautiful....energy about you, and it just made me have to say "hi". I'm YOUR NAME HERE".
Ok. Another major way to meet women is to say something funny; make an observation or comment that is humorous, based on something you can observe.
Now, again, I can't give you a "one line fits all" example, because again, it's based on what you are observing in the actual situation. So you will have to observe her, asking, "What can I notice that I can use to make a connection?".
Next, ask yourself, "How can I phrase that in a clever, funny way that gets attention and makes her laugh?"
This takes some practice. But you can get good at it.
Now, again, I hesitate to give word for word examples, because it depends on what you observe.
Here Are Some Approaches I Do NOT Recommend:
1. Asking her the time, or for directions. It's trite, lame, and then where do you go from there? If you are terribly shy and can't even talk to women, ok, you can start here. But learn to do something else quickly.
2. Being insulting or in any way rude. I don't care what you might have heard. Insulting a woman is stupid. Any woman with choice is just going to move on. If she's kind, she won't insult you back. If she isn't, she just might give a verbal tongue lashing, and that's not the kind of tongue action you want!
3. Invading her space when I meet her. Once I make my initial opening, tell her my name, shake her hand; I then actually take a step back, away from her, to give her back her space.
Women tell me that, to them, it demonstrates respect. It also indicates that, while I am strong enough to come up and meet them, I am also concerned with their safety, and they like that combination. And finally, it indicates a challenge: just because she gave me a good initial response to my opener, doesn't mean she has me! It establishes a challenge, right away.
http://speedseductions.blogspot.com/
Peace and piece,
Ross Jeffries
About the Author
Ross Jeffries blogs on Speed Seduction
You see, knowing what to SAY to a woman is utterly and totally dependent on WHAT YOU CAN OBSERVE ABOUT THAT WOMAN.
It's not so much a matter of what to say.
No, the real secret of "opening" women is, knowing what to observe, knowing what to notice, and even KNOWING WHAT TO GET CURIOUS ABOUT.
Does that make sense?
Also, the approach to opening her might differ a bit if she is at a coffee house, quietly studying, as opposed to in a loud restaurant or party, right?
Why?
Because the CONTEXT she is in and what you NOTICE about her is going to be different.
If she's studying, and you notice that she's having a hard time; thinking really hard, talking to herself outloud or just thinking "OUTLOUD" in her head, it would NOT make sense to walkup and ask her opinion about the great band that is playing or where she bought her cool bicycle.
So, I will say it again. The most important thing, first and foremost, is NOT what you say, but the context she is in, and what you can observe about her and the setting she is in.
Now, many guys ask me about compliments. Should I give them?Is it a good way to first "open up" talking to a woman? If so,what should I compliment?
Ok. I'll repeat: it depends on the context, where she is,what she is doing, and what you NOTICE and can OBSERVE.
Look: whether it is opening her by using a compliment, or asking her a question about something, or making a comment about something she's doing or something going on in the environment,I will ask myself the same question, "What can I notice about this person that I can use to make a connection?"
Now, let's say I notice something about her that I DO find worth complimenting. My rules for complimenting are as follows:
1. NO sexual content in the compliments. That means I don't compliment on her great boobs, great legs, great butt, etc. No woman (no half-way SANE woman) wants a drooling lecher.
2. All compliments to be delivered with good eye contact (infact, ANY openers are delivered this way) with a smile on my face AND in my eyes ( I sort of make them twinkle a bit) and deliverd with a MATTER of fact voice tone.
This means I don't over do it with my tone of voice. The compliment is delivered, matter of fact, with no concern on my part whether she will accept it, reject it or anything in between.
It is NOT about her accepting or rejecting what I say. It is ONLY about me wanting to say what I have to say, and any response she has is OK WITH ME.
Really, this is about the sub-text. This means, you see, that there is the surface message, the actual words I say. Those can be important.
But the sub-text is the unspoken or implied message I am delivering about me and how I walk through the world; that take full responsibility for how I feel about myself, my situation, the events and circumstances in my life, and I don't need anyone to approve or validate my message.
Now, trust me. When you come from THAT place, and add in a touch of humor....
Almost Anything You Say Will Get A Good Response!
Notice something else. This is a great but different KIND of confidence. It's not the kind of confidence that say, loudly, "I KNOW I AM GOING TO GET WHAT I WANT".
It's more of a, "If I get what I want, that's fine and good, and if not, that's ok too. I'm having fun regardless".
Ok. Back to compliments then.
I prefer to compliment women on the following things:
1. How they carry themselves or how they move. I enjoy awoman who moves beautifully and/or who has great posture. I will tell them so, as follows, "I just wanted to tell....I think you have perfect.......posture. You just carry yourself beautifully."
Notice the ....... This indicates a pause in your speaking. I don't run everythingtogetherintoonesentencelikethis.
No. I take....my....time. I pause, right before I tell them what I am going to tell them, so they will get curious about what I am going to say, and therefore be more receptive.
The pauses in the music are as much a part of the music as the notes, to use a metaphor.
2. How they are dressed. I like to compliment on style. So I will say, "I just wanted to tell you...I admire women with class and style...so I had to say "hi". I'm YOUR NAME HERE."
Note that this is what I call an IMPLIED compliment. I didn't' directly tell her I think SHE has class and style. I said I admire women with class and style, so I had to say "hi".That IMPLIES that I think she has class and style.
Why is this important?
Well, by implying the compliment, she has to use her imagination to interpret what you meant.
Imagination is an ACTIVE process, and so she doesn't resist the message, as she herself has to take an active hand in creating it!
Implied compliments are very useful in slipping past any resistance or skepticism to your message!
3. I will compliment on their "energy". I know this is a New Age, California kind of thing, but women are into "energy" or "vibes". It doesn't matter if you believe in it or not-although I hope one day you will.
The important thing is, MOST women believe in it.
So if I notice a woman has a calm, radiant, happy demeanor, I will say, "I just wanted to tell you.....I think you have..a beautiful....energy about you, and it just made me have to say "hi". I'm YOUR NAME HERE".
Ok. Another major way to meet women is to say something funny; make an observation or comment that is humorous, based on something you can observe.
Now, again, I can't give you a "one line fits all" example, because again, it's based on what you are observing in the actual situation. So you will have to observe her, asking, "What can I notice that I can use to make a connection?".
Next, ask yourself, "How can I phrase that in a clever, funny way that gets attention and makes her laugh?"
This takes some practice. But you can get good at it.
Now, again, I hesitate to give word for word examples, because it depends on what you observe.
Here Are Some Approaches I Do NOT Recommend:
1. Asking her the time, or for directions. It's trite, lame, and then where do you go from there? If you are terribly shy and can't even talk to women, ok, you can start here. But learn to do something else quickly.
2. Being insulting or in any way rude. I don't care what you might have heard. Insulting a woman is stupid. Any woman with choice is just going to move on. If she's kind, she won't insult you back. If she isn't, she just might give a verbal tongue lashing, and that's not the kind of tongue action you want!
3. Invading her space when I meet her. Once I make my initial opening, tell her my name, shake her hand; I then actually take a step back, away from her, to give her back her space.
Women tell me that, to them, it demonstrates respect. It also indicates that, while I am strong enough to come up and meet them, I am also concerned with their safety, and they like that combination. And finally, it indicates a challenge: just because she gave me a good initial response to my opener, doesn't mean she has me! It establishes a challenge, right away.
http://speedseductions.blogspot.com/
Peace and piece,
Ross Jeffries
About the Author
Ross Jeffries blogs on Speed Seduction
Secrets to Attract Men - Remarkable Attraction Tips to Charm Men
Secrets to Attract Men - Remarkable Attraction Tips to Charm Men by Michael Lee
Dating divas make it look so effortless and simple to captivate the opposite sex; but in reality, they have their own secrets to attract men. Do you want to know their techniques on how to draw men in like bees to honey? Follow the excellent advice below and discover the secrets to attract men, so you can charm your way into their heart.
Love your beauty. Acknowledge that you are beautiful. You may not look like the models in fashion magazines or TV commercials, but rest assured that those models would not actually look like that without makeup and a lot of work. And though men may fancy the idea of dating a supermodel, real, touchable beauty is a hit with them anytime.
So in style, emphasize your assets and hide your flaws. Or, you can work on your flaws but don't get so fixated on them that you forget that you are already beautiful. Remember, beauty is also an attitude. Women who believe they are beautiful are attractive to men.
Be in the know, but not a know-it-all. Don't be afraid to show your intelligence. Mature, confident men like smart women. If he's threatened by your intelligence, then you have to ask yourself if you really want to go out with a man like him.
Be careful, though, that you don't come across as a know-it-all. A witty remark or a brief comment about current events here and there is fine; but talking this way for the entire or almost the entire conversation is in bad taste. Acting this way won't draw men in at all.
Be fascinated. When you get the chance to talk to a guy you like, show your fascination. Ask him questions. Listen to him talk. Acknowledge and show that you're interested in what he's saying. Subtly mirror his tone of voice and body language. A fascinated woman fascinates a man. This is one of the best-kept secrets to attract men.
Be careful, though, not to appear overeager. And make sure that the conversation is not only about him. Let him know something about you as well to pique his interest.
Touch. Touch him subtly and naturally - on the shoulder, arm, etc. A single touch can kindle sparks. A light, "unconscious' touch on the man's knee is particularly sensual and can stir his imagination.
Keep an air of mystery. While you may share things about yourself, don't tell all or don't tell too much. Leave some of your statements open-ended and let him wonder. Make him eager to learn more about you. Men are always pulled in by a little mystery.
With these secrets to attract men, you will find that attracting men can be as simple (and exciting) as going shopping.
About the Author
Michael Lee has dramatically changed countless lives with his powerful self-improvement advice. Get free self-help success secrets, products, and advice now at http://www.20daypersuasion.com/goldmine.htm and be the next BIG success story!
Dating divas make it look so effortless and simple to captivate the opposite sex; but in reality, they have their own secrets to attract men. Do you want to know their techniques on how to draw men in like bees to honey? Follow the excellent advice below and discover the secrets to attract men, so you can charm your way into their heart.
Love your beauty. Acknowledge that you are beautiful. You may not look like the models in fashion magazines or TV commercials, but rest assured that those models would not actually look like that without makeup and a lot of work. And though men may fancy the idea of dating a supermodel, real, touchable beauty is a hit with them anytime.
So in style, emphasize your assets and hide your flaws. Or, you can work on your flaws but don't get so fixated on them that you forget that you are already beautiful. Remember, beauty is also an attitude. Women who believe they are beautiful are attractive to men.
Be in the know, but not a know-it-all. Don't be afraid to show your intelligence. Mature, confident men like smart women. If he's threatened by your intelligence, then you have to ask yourself if you really want to go out with a man like him.
Be careful, though, that you don't come across as a know-it-all. A witty remark or a brief comment about current events here and there is fine; but talking this way for the entire or almost the entire conversation is in bad taste. Acting this way won't draw men in at all.
Be fascinated. When you get the chance to talk to a guy you like, show your fascination. Ask him questions. Listen to him talk. Acknowledge and show that you're interested in what he's saying. Subtly mirror his tone of voice and body language. A fascinated woman fascinates a man. This is one of the best-kept secrets to attract men.
Be careful, though, not to appear overeager. And make sure that the conversation is not only about him. Let him know something about you as well to pique his interest.
Touch. Touch him subtly and naturally - on the shoulder, arm, etc. A single touch can kindle sparks. A light, "unconscious' touch on the man's knee is particularly sensual and can stir his imagination.
Keep an air of mystery. While you may share things about yourself, don't tell all or don't tell too much. Leave some of your statements open-ended and let him wonder. Make him eager to learn more about you. Men are always pulled in by a little mystery.
With these secrets to attract men, you will find that attracting men can be as simple (and exciting) as going shopping.
About the Author
Michael Lee has dramatically changed countless lives with his powerful self-improvement advice. Get free self-help success secrets, products, and advice now at http://www.20daypersuasion.com/goldmine.htm and be the next BIG success story!
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